Let Go of Resentment – This is often the hardest because it is so intertwined in the others. Ultimately, it requires letting go of the “should,” not taking things personally, and seeing setbacks as opportunities to learn and adjust, rather than mistakes or “failures.”Ĥ. If you are able to see that everyone has best intentions, and does the best that they can in the moment, including you, then supporting yourself on the rough days becomes easier. It's equally important that we do the same thing for ourselves. Practice Radical Compassion – At Impact, we work with parents every day around having compassion for our kids and their challenges like Anxiety and ADHD. Do for You – A wise woman once told me that if you want your family to give you what you need – tell them what you want – or better yet, give it to yourself! Simply spending 30-60 minutes each week doing something just for you can be sufficient fuel to balance the most challenging weeks.ģ. Learn about the threat cycle and practice the steps religiously when you do get triggered.Ģ. This requires letting go of some things, or delegating others (or getting some coaching around specific triggers, which, by the way, was my salvation!). ![]() Manage Triggers Consciously – Know what sets you off – pushes your buttons – and find ways to side step them if you can. It can make a huge difference in terms of how you are able to manage your life, and the lives of your family.ġ. Taking care of yourself isn't all that hard, and doesn't take that much time or investment. Learn How Simple Self Care for Super-Moms! So what's the solution? Something I call: It's not all that different from our kids and their ADHD, or anxiety (or whatever) – a stressed out, overwhelmed brain simply can't function at optimal capacity. How well our brain operates under life's stressors is directly correlated with our stress level and attitude. ![]() In reality, how we handle dropping the ball is about biology. I can hear myself muttering expletives or worse yet, yelling them at my kids! The challenge comes when I realize that the ratio of “got it” days to “oh crap” days is not in my favor. Seriously, there are days that I handle things seamlessly, bopping from here to there, with a smile on my face, and a task-list in my hand.īut on other days, I drop the ball so quickly that I can't even remember the ones I've missed. Personally, I have complete compassion for the other moms out there who add their own ADHD to the mix – hats off to you girls!įor the most part, I wear my elevated executive function status like a badge of honor. Add to that single parenting, menopause, full-time job (okay, more than full time), and mostly it can be exhausting. I'm not, actually, but they see the challenges I have managing the details of life, and it can look A LOT like the things I'm coaching them to manage.Īfter listening to one of our guest experts recently, I've discovered the truth: I Suffer From Stressed Out Super Mom Syndromeīeing the grown-up in the family with the most executive function can be a challenge on the best of days. *Note to all you Superdads out there: this applies to you too – so read on!Ībout once a week my kids accuse me of being ADHD.
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